Thursday, April 24, 2014

Let's talk about Sex baby!

Sex is a topic that is loved.. People love talking about it and apparently doing it too.. Sex sells!! It is everywhere around us, our friends talk about it, magazines scream to use at the grocery line.. It is everywhere!!

I like thinking about sex in an intimate way, it is something you do with someone you love, does that sound cliche?  We currently live in an era were sex is something you do, just to do.  One night stands are a go to for single people on a Saturday night, and the 3 date rule is highly implemented among young dating couples in our society.  Young girls think it is cool to have sex, and a way to fit in amongst their 13 year old peers. <-Seriously??

 At my job, we provide care for children up until 1 day before they turn 13 years old.  I had a case where one of my parents is 13 years old.  She is at the age where the children of my parents would be getting terminated, and yet I am here offering services to my 13 year old parent.  I spoke with my supervisor regarding my parent, and his response was to terminate her since she is over age.  I repeated myself once again, "No, the parent of the young baby IS 13 years old. The parent is not the child." My supervisor gave me a dumbfounded look.  I was pretty shocked myself.

I think that as a society we need to rethink our values.  Ladies, having sex is not going to make you cool, sexy, or make a guy fall madly in love with you.  My advice to young girls, old girls, single girls, married girls, every girl... Respect yourself.  There are many ways to have fun.  Never forget to have morals and to be a lady.  We don't need to go out and have wild sex with every man we meet during the weekend.  Respecting your temple is crucial to living a healthy life.

I am not an old lady, I am only 26.  Im happily engaged, soon to be married.  I have travelled different parts of the world, I am educated, and I LOVE to have a good time.  I have friends that have a 3 date rule, and friends who are so ladylike and sweet they make me shiver.. We all want love and try to find love in the ways we think we can get it.. One thing is for sure, if you respect yourself and love yourself,  everyone else around you will not be able to help loving you too.


Monday, April 14, 2014

Hello/Goodbye Monday

Hello my lovely ladies!!

What a Monday today was, the entire reason I decided to begin blogging, to somehow dedicate myself to something I am passionate about, instead of always being stuck in an 8 to 5.  I currently work for a children's agency that assists low income families with subsidized child care.  There are SO many people I know who would do anything to have their child care paid for, but these parent's of mine almost act like they are entitled to our services.  In other words, today work was CRAZY! Mom's screaming at me, threatening me with lawsuits, and the most shocking of news today, was finding out one of my mom's was a 13 year old girl, still attending Jr. High.  Anyways.. On a happier note.. I don't go back to work until 8:30am tomorrow, haha..

I had a good conversation with a friend today regarding relationships.  She currently finds herself going through a break up, and as anyone who has ever experienced heartbreak, going through a break up is tough.  Unfortunately, there is a 4 year old child involved, and children above all, are most affected by a parent's separation.  So what you do you do when you go through a break up?

It was difficult for me to offer any valuable advice, I sat there and listened.  What would a person going through a break up want to hear?  I was scared to say the wrong thing, since I am known for always saying the wrong thing.. But I have the best intention!! Promise! :)

After a while of listening to her I gave her a reality check.  Ladies and gents.. When a person wants you , they WILL make sure to make it known.  And if they don't make it known, I suggest you don't waste your time and MOVE on.  Easier said than done, yes I know.. But this is my way of thinking.  Yes, life is the longest thing we have, yet the shortest at the same time.  While we are here, living on earth, why not focus on living an absolutely amazing life?  There is NO point in wasting our time with someone who is not able to appreciate our entirety, who thinks we may be available at their disposal, and most importantly, who we DO NOT find ourselves happy with!!!!!  Highly emphasize the unhappy part.  We may love someone, but may not like them <-- Does that make sense?

We need to love ourselves, respect ourselves, and look out for ourselves.  Give your heart to a person who will be able to cherish it, not take it for granted.  If you are feeling down, read something that may lift your spirits up.  Always remember, pain is temporary.  And if there is a negative side, there must be a positive.  Focusing on what good may come out of any situation is always key to keep us moving forward.

You are meant to have an amazing life, and that is the only truth.